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It’s wonderful being a father. There’s nothing that compares to the joy that I feel from a hug, kiss and an “I love you” from my three-year-old daughter Anya. To my surprise, I’ve also discovered an unexpected fringe benefit of fatherhood. My daughter provides me with daily reminders of powerful marketing truths. Here are two recent lessons:
Meet the Needs of Your Market
According to my mother, a longtime preschool teacher and my go-to resource for all things toddler, Anya has highly-developed “play skills” for her age. One of her abilities is observing children before she interacts with them to figure out what they need. Thus, she greatly increases the likelihood of making a positive first impression.
When Anya sees a child digging in a sandbox with his hands, she’ll look for a shovel or tool that will make the task easier. Then, she’ll offer the implement making sure to adjust her presentation style to match the personality of the recipient. For instance, if the child is shy, she’ll present the item gently; however, if the kid has exuberant tendencies like hers, she’ll shriek with delight while sharing her find. Whether Anya engages with an introvert or extrovert, the result is generally the same. She makes a friend.
Too often, businesses fail because they push their products and services without taking the time to observe and understand their customers. Business owners need to spend more time watching and listening to their prospects so they can tailor products and marketing approaches to people’s needs and personalities.
Go for No
My friends and authors Rich Fenton and Andrea Waltz wrote a great book called Go for No that illustrates why it’s unproductive to focus on the word “yes” during the sales process. They suggest just the opposite. By increasing your failure rate, you create more selling opportunities and accelerate your movement toward ultimate success.
While I have to remind myself about the need to pick up the phone and “go for no” in following up with prospects, Anya doesn’t worry about rejection. After spotting a bowl full of multi-colored tortilla chips in the grocery store, here’s how Anya navigated the situation:
Anya: Daddy, I want a chip.
Me: No sweetie, it’s almost dinner.
Anya: But, I really want a chip.
Me: I said “no.”
Anya: But I need a chip. I’m sooooo hungry.
This conversation continued for about 15 minutes. Finally, worn out from her insistence, I relented and gave her a few chips. While I understand that it’s not good parenting to cave to toddler demands and I usually resist Anya’s plaintive requests, I must confess that they do work at times.
Rich has witnessed many similar scenes involving parents and children. “Kids know that it pays to go for no. They understand that ‘no’ usually means ‘not now’ instead of ‘not ever.’” In contrast, most adults get discouraged by the rejection of their ideas, products or services. In fact, most salespeople give up after hearing four ‘no’s’ from somebody…even though research indicates that most customers will say some form of “no” five times before making a buying decision.
Have you received marketing or business wisdom from children? If so, I would love to hear your examples and possibly share them in a future newsletter or blog post (with your permission).

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